A man's point of view...

As the readership of this new born blog, is steadily increasing in readership, both in numbers and by geographic location; I have asked one of my MBFs (male best friends) to share with you a man's point of view on dating and relationships; offering us single gals advice and basically help us to figure out how men think!

Basically, I'm sharing my MBF with you; he has very kindly agreed to submit a posting a week, with insightful thoughts and advice.

You are very welcome to submit questions or queries for him to answer by emailing… powderroomtales@gmail.com Anonymity guaranteed!

A man's point of view... #1

A funny story from a few years back: A guy had recently started going out with a girl, he was out with the lads in the club and was all in their faces about their reticence to approach any of the lovely ladies in the club to chat them up. He relayed how he had chatted up his new girl and ‘swept her off her feet’ and ‘You can do it too’ etc. On hearing this the girlfriend, who happened to be within earshot gave him a clip ‘round the ear and cut him down to size: ‘What do you mean?! I was the one who asked you out!’

Why don’t more women take the initiative? You’ve made huge strides for equality in so many spheres yet a lot of women that I’ve spoken to just won’t make that first move!

So you spot a nice guy across the room and flutter your eyelashes at him, flick your hair in his direction and generally leave him in no doubt as to your interest in him. You wait for him to approach. What happens when he doesn’t make any move? Take it personally that he’s not interested in you, and move on to the next good-looking guy?

There could be any amount of reasons why he won’t come over. He could be attached, he’s shortsighted, he’s intimidated by the gang of girlfriends around you or maybe he’s just shy to make the first move.

Seriously, girls should not be afraid to take control on this score. Most reasonable guys will be pleasantly surprised when it happens, they’ll be flattered even. I know I was. Only the odd guy will feel emasculated when you break the normal convention and start to chat him up. And, let’s face it, if he does take offence you don’t want to be with him anyway.

How many guys have you made eyes at, putting the ball firmly in his court which he failed to return, then you went home alone that night wondering why? At least if you make the move you won’t be left wondering about what might have been.