As I was writing the blogs on Internet dating I was reminded of all the disappointment I experienced in the past due to built up expectations. Basically I was trying to dream Mr. Right into life; if only it worked like that. My friend Tina claims her mum is knitting her a man!!
Are we building ourselves up for a fall by having expectations? When we have expectations, we create a picture in our mind of what we want. That picture is usually very detailed and specific. Once created, it remains as a template against which we measure anything that appears.
We probably all have built a "template" of Mr. Right in our heads...and no man to date, has matched up.
Should we change our 'expectations' to 'intentions'?
Intentions arise out of a desire that involves some sort of action e.g. you go out, on a Friday night, you intend to have fun. There is willingness to take action to create appropriate response to what we desire.
So rather than expecting to meet Mr Right, go out and intend to meet a nice guy who is a good person.
Advantages? You eliminate the element of disappointment and all that brings with it!
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- Powder Room Tales...by Amber Black
- These are the deep and meaningful conversations every girl has with her best gal pals...about the guy who just winked at her across the bar, or the last man who broke her heart. These are the conversations we all love being part of and sharing over brunch or a good bottle of pinot or in the powder room of your favourite Saturday night venue...our Powder Room is located at the top of a lofty stair in Kehoe's Bar, Dublin. These conversations are real...names have been changed to protect privacy and avoid shameful blushes (",) I hope you enjoy!!!
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