Who is stronger in a relationship?

In a conversation over a Pinot the other night the gals and I debated who was stronger in a relationship, that is, who wears the trousers? The conversation developed from, how we singletons lose friends to their other halves...the girls tend to socialise with their bfs and
other couples, whilst male friends seem to vanish into thin air! Their new gfs seem to lack self-confidence and find a very platonic friendship, which may be decades old, threatening! If I hadn't chosen to jump him in the last ten years, why would I now that he's happily attached? What makes women feel so threatened? I'd love to see 'me' thru their eyes; do they see some little sex kitten purring over their man? I promise reality couldn't be further from that image. An
example: a good friend's gf was taking a few months off travelling; the trip was planned prior to their meeting. I told her I'd ‘keep an eye out for him’, make sure he wasn't dying of loneliness ...her retort was 'over my dead body'! They are now married and he has cut all contact... I find it saddening to lose a friendship due to unfounded jealousy of a partner. We all know who wears the trousers in that relationship.

One of my friends mentioned every time she catches up with her childhood mbf he brings his gf along with him. That would frustrate the hell out of me, my mbfs are my confidants; they know my every secret and I trust them wholeheartedly for those secrets to remain so, not being able to share a heart to heart with them in person with a gf present... Well to be honest the heart to hearts would never happen. I have two mbfs who share their email account with their wives! You could imagine my horror when emailing my childhood friend who lived in Australia, on what I believed was a personal email address about personal family stuff and his wife replying.

I firmly believe there should be no secrets in a relationship but is this, a step too far?


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