A man's point of view # 2

I’ve only had the pleasure of being in love once in my life and one of the strongest aspects of that relationship was that not only were we boyfriend-girlfriend but that we became best friends as well.
 
I’m not a strong believer in the concept of soul-mates, ie there being one person perfect for you on the planet. (If that’s the case it’s a bit depressing. What are the odds of you meeting that person? The world is a large place!) But I do believe that the concept of being great friends who happen to be in a relationship is vital if it is to last. This might sound like an obvious statement to most people but you’d be surprised how many relationships wouldn’t survive if it weren’t for the sexual aspect of it. They just can’t be platonic friends, the friendship just can’t survive without the sex.  Once the relationship is over they just walk away and rarely see each other again, if ever. I’ve been in those kind of relationships too, they all lasted 2 months at most. Yeah, they can be great fun and the sex is great but they rarely leave anything lasting to remember them by.
 
There’s an old idea – You should choose a partner whose company you enjoy at least as much as you fancy them because as the years go on and you both grow old the physical attraction will wane but hopefully the friendship will not.
 
One negative in all this is if the relationship breaks up, the loss feels greater as you lose a friend as well as a lover. But the rewards when it clicks, in my view, are worth it.
 
So, reader – What do you think? Any experiences of your own to share?
 
 
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