Breaking up, it's hard to do!

Why does it hurt so much when breaking up with someone, when you’re doing the breaking? Even though you know it's not right; you know it doesn't have a future and/or you know you deserve better.

Is it the apprehension of being alone? The feeling of not being part of ‘something’, you’re left feeling like you don’t belong? But isn't it better than the alternative? Being unhappy alone, than unhappy in the wrong relationship? At least, the former is temporary!

You may say misery enjoys company; but have you thought about the soul-destroying effects of being trapped in the wrong relationship? The loss of self-confidence for starters and its side effects; the loss of identity, when you feel you’ve disappeared into the background. The feeling of being taken for granted.

Breaking up, even when it’s hard to do, is the bravest thing in the world to do, cut the ties, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, get to know YOU again, LIKE yourself and get out there to have fun! The pain won’t go away overnight, but when it does, you’ll wonder why you wasted so much time in the wrong relationship! Look at your friends, I bet you’ve neglected your ‘single’ friends whilst attached, pick up the phone, we’ll welcome you back into the fold wholeheartedly.

Being single can be fun; it isn’t an infliction no matter how ‘they’ sometimes make us feel! I’d rather be enjoying life, happy in my single life, than miserable and attached.

I’m sure hundreds of us have horror stories to share, but when we look back we’re better people for walking away!

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